Category: learning and living
Organize your training, improve your life
I like to listen to a lot of personal development stuff. It’s actually one of the things that in addition to becoming a personal trainer also led me to become a motivational speaker. It helps cut through the negativity that is all around us, and because people come to me to help improve their lives through getting in shape, I also like to help guide other aspects of their life so that everything improves, not just the way they look in before and after pics.
As I was setting my workout up, I was listening to a personal development podcast called “The Mindset Mentor”. I’ve pasted the episode below.
As I was listening to the episode, I was struck by a small handful of the nuggets and how it applies to training. The first one was about habit stacking. Basically if there is a habit you wish to have, pair it with something you are already doing. As an example, one of the ways I stay consistent with promoting my motivational modern day strength performer business is I pair it up with my workouts. Basically, I set up the equipment for my workout and update the programming so I know how much time my workout will take. Then once its all set up, I simply go across the street to the library and send out prospecting emails. Then I workout before my clients come in. It keeps me consistent, and because I don’t have the typical distractions, I minimizes decision fatigue which brings me to the next one.
The next one was about simplifying your life to minimize decision fatigue. Basically, you only have so much decision making ability in a day, and every decision you make taps it just a little bit. There is freedom in structure. A lot of people’s workouts (and even some personal trainers that don’t really know what they’re doing) are just made up as they go along. That’s actually harder to do from a decision fatigue standpoint. For me, I simply update the plan, and follow the plan. The hard part of the decision making process was at the beginning. And for my personal training clients its even easier. They just have to show up and do what their coach says. They’re pretty much all professionals in their given field and can probably figure out how to train, but there is value to “because coach said so.” It takes those decisions of their plate so they can focus on what they need to focus on. The main decision they made was choosing Eric Moss Fitness for all their health and fitness needs for which I’m thankful.
If you want to get in phenomenal shape fast, and want to minimize the decision making fatigue, then one choice you have is to take my free trial so you can decide if you think its for you. Then assuming you choose to continue, I’ll program your workouts and guide you so you never feel lost and you are on the effective road towards your goals. I take care of the complicated part for you. All you have to do is text me at 973 476 5328 and introduce yourself to get started.
Eric Moss is a personal trainer in Boonton and moonlights as a world-record-holding modern-day professional performing strongman, author, and motivational speaker. In the tradition of the strength performers more common during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a live show and travels across the country doing presentations on goal achievement for conferences, corporations, associations, nonprofits, and government entities as well as for schools and universities. His personal training studio is located on Main Street in Boonton New Jersey and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, Montville, Kinnelon, Pine Brook, Butler, and Parsippany New Jersey.
How training can improve your dating…(not what you think)
When people come to me for training, they come in with all sorts of different expectations. Some are afraid that I’m going to yell at them.
I don’t.
Some are afraid that I’m going to ask them to do things they aren’t ready for.
I don’t.
Some of the single guys I train think that by improving their physique, women are going to throw themselves at them.
Sorry but they don’t.
Yes having a lean, toned, muscular physique can get you more looks, but nobody wants to get caught staring. I remember about a year or two ago, I took my daughters to a princess tea party event that was coordinated by Tony who I trained to win Mr. Gay USA 2022. At this event as I was leaving, I found myself face to face with two of the women that were there and had an interaction that became a core memory.
It went like this…
“Oh great, it figures that you’d be the one I was parked next to”
I was caught off guard and confused so I said “huh?”
“My friend told me you caught us talking and making a big deal about your pecs, arms and abs”
Me now realizing what was happening “Actually this is the first I heard of it…but thank you. I work hard and it’s always nice when it gets recognized.”
Now that the elephant in the room was actually acknowledged she laughed and said “well congrats on your physique” and her friend yelled out the car window “yeah good job on being a dad without the dad bod”
Now my kids were there, their kids were there, I’m married, they’re married and even if all that weren’t in place I doubt it would have gone any different. The only reason they even said anything was because they thought I caught them red handed. I guess they under estimated how oblivious I can be.
When guys come to me to improve their dating life by improving their physiques, I tell them learn to cook. That can not only help with your dating life, but can improve your physique as well.
Now can improving your physique make you look more attractive. According to the fitness indicator hypothesis study yes.
Can having a lean, toned, muscular physique improve your dating life? Absolutely, but maybe not the way you think it can.
A couple years ago, there was an article promoting the dad bod as the new thing women are into.
First, if the “dad bod” was really the thing that was considered most attractive, then they wouldn’t put lean, toned muscular physiques on the cover of romance novels. They put what they think will sell copies, and average doesn’t move merch.
Anyways I was curious about the content of the article and the main takeaway I got, was that the article was written from a place of insecurity.
Instead the way that improving your physique improves your dating life, isn’t necessarily in the way you look (though it helps) it shows you value yourself, that you have discipline, that you are capable, that you are willing to to show up even when you don’t feel like it, that you can commit and work through hardships. Those are all things that are desirable in a partner.
Raising your level of fitness enables you do do fun and interesting things because you are capable of them. Training represents a safe space to find out what you are capable of, which makes you feel good about yourself, the way you look and what you can do. That confidence, is the real magnet that attracts other people that feel good about themselves and changes your out look on life in general.
It’s not about the abs, its’ about becoming the best possible version of yourself. Who wouldn’t want to be with that?
If you need help with this, that’s what I do. I have a free trial, just send me a text at 973 476 5328 to get started.
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Eric Moss is a personal trainer in Boonton and moonlights as a world-record-holding modern-day professional performing strongman, author, and motivational speaker. In the tradition of the strength performers more common during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a live show and travels across the country doing presentations on goal achievement for conferences, corporations, associations, nonprofits, and government entities as well as for schools and universities. His personal training studio is located on Main Street in Boonton New Jersey and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, Montville, Kinnelon, Pine Brook, Butler, and Parsippany New Jersey.
getting stronger is the key to whatever your goal is. Here’s why
The other day I was having a conversation with my wife. She was telling me she wants to grow her glutes and put on 3lbs of muscle over the next 6 months. I told her I could get her there in 3months by getting her stronger.
Now I’m a strength guy, getting stronger has been my focus for a long time and even got to the point of setting a world record and flying across the country and showing off from the stage. Get paid pretty well to do it too.
Now she was probably under the assumption that if all you have is a hammer, you treat everything like a nail. And yes that’s partially true, but when it comes to strength training, yes its a hammer, but its also a key. The key to just about any goal you wish to attain…at least from a physical standpoint.
Ken hexbar deadlifting around 185lbs and taking it for a walk.
If you’re one of the more “life experienced” people, getting stronger is the key to longevity. There is a correlation between grip strength and needing assisted living. When people lose the ability to get in and out of a chair easily that’s when things tend to take a turn for the worse. The key to longevity is get stronger.
Josh made the varsity team as a freshmen, went on to become team captain and achieved his dream of going to Westpoint Academy. Getting stronger helped.
If you want to get better at sports…assuming your technique is halfway solid, getting stronger will help you relax into it. I once helped someone add 20 yards to her golf drive in a month. I’m no expert in golf, but I’ve seen the Happy Gilmore movies and I know that if the numbers that are supposed to go up go up, good things are happening. All other things being equal, the stronger athlete will win. The key is get stronger.
2 people asked her if she had a butt lift operation. Nope, she simply got stronger in the exercises optimal for her.
And for someone who wants to look better in a bikini (and yes I have a vested interest in my wife looking even better), the key is get stronger at the optimal exercises associated with looking good in a bikini in the reps and volume ranges associated with building muscle and burning fat. I’m training a woman for a beach vacation coming up in January, and assuming everything goes according to plan, she’ll be doing hip thrusts with 480lbs for about 60 sub-maximal reps in a workout. How do you think her glutes are going to look when she’s doing that? How do you think the rest of her is going to look when she’s gotten stronger across multiple lifts? Let’s just say, she’ll be thankful she chose Eric Moss Fitness for all her health and fitness needs.
Hopefully I have you convinced that you should get stronger. We’ve covered some of the “why” (in actuality, there are so many more examples, but I’m trying to keep these somewhat short.). The next question is now the “how?” Well, there are many progression patterns you can try to find on your own, and many of them are pretty good too.
But if you want the simplest answer, let me do it for you. There is an art and science to optimal program design and much of it has a bit more complexity than “go hard or go home bro.” But don’t worry about that, just show up ready to go. I have a free trial available so you can see if you like it first. Just text me direct at 973 476 5328 and introduce yourself to get started.
Eric Moss is a personal trainer in Boonton and moonlights as a world-record-holding modern-day professional performing strongman, author, and motivational speaker. In the tradition of the strength performers more common during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a live show and travels across the country doing presentations on goal achievement for conferences, corporations, associations, nonprofits, and government entities as well as for schools and universities. His personal training studio is located on Main Street in Boonton New Jersey and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, Montville, Kinnelon, Pine Brook, Butler, and Parsippany New Jersey.