Why you should ask questions

This past Monday I was scrolling through my phone and decided to delete some of my talking heads videos. Somehow during this process I came across an old screen shot of mine that told the heart wrenching story of someone in the gym being made fun of for not knowing what they are doing and posted it in a local facebook group which got a pretty good response.

So I was telling one of the guys I train about this. He had mentioned that the gym can be a pretty intimidating place for a lot of people.

Somehow it never was to me. Lifting weights felt natural to me, but even when I didn’t know how to do something I was never afraid to approach someone that obviously knew what they were doing to pick their brain for a minute. Oftentimes people can get intimidated asking for help because they don’t want to appear annoying.

Ironically that’s the opposite effect of what actually happens. In Brendon Burchard’s book High Performance Habits he talks about the fact that “high performers” ask a lot of questions and it actually endears them to the people they’re asking.

Why? Because when you’re interested in something that they are passionate about it gives them an opportunity to share their passion.

In fact when I reflect on my own journey, part of the reason I became a modern day performing strongman is because I saw a guy roll up a frying pan and I asked him a lot of questions which kick started a long distance friendship that I maintain to this day.

When people sign up for the free trial at my personal training studio, my passion becomes pretty apparent when I start explaining the method behind the madness. And I always encourage my clients to ask me questions whenever they are curious about something.

So whatever it is that you want in life, find someone that knows what they’re doing and don’t be afraid to ask questions. It can help put you on track towards your goals, and you can find people with mutual interests.

If you are interested in transforming your physique, taking your strength, muscle gain and burning off unwanted body fat, I have a free trial at my personal training studio…just send me a text at 973 476 5328 and just ask 🙂


Eric Moss is a personal trainer in Boonton and moonlights as a world-record-holding modern-day professional performing strongman, author, and motivational speaker. In the tradition of the strength performers more common during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a live show and travels across the country doing presentations on goal achievement for conferences, corporations, associations, nonprofits, and government entities as well as for schools and universities. His personal training studio is located on Main Street in Boonton New Jersey and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, Montville, Kinnelon, Pine Brook, Butler, and Parsippany New Jersey.

Stop Procrastinating and try this…

In my personal training studio we have an inside joke where whenever someone thanks me or shows appreciation, it’s immediately responded to with my catch phrase “Thank you for choosing Eric Moss Fitness for all your health and fitness needs” followed immediately by a laugh, or groan with an eye roll.

Kicker is, people actually are thankful for choosing Eric Moss Fitness for all their health and fitness needs….and I am thankful they chose Eric Moss Fitness for all their health and fitness needs after all.

But the best way to thank me, is by continuing to choose Eric Moss Fitness for all their health and fitness needs (you can get an idea of my humor here), or by sending me referrals. Often times they tell me they’re trying to send their spouse, romantic interest, friend etc. to me, even asking “Have they reached out yet?” This can sometimes go for weeks on end.

Usually my reply is, “they’ll reach out when they’re actually ready”. And yeah, this stuff takes commitment and effort so they should be ready…but at the same time, people will spend their whole life getting ready to get ready then as “Pink” from Pink Floyd would say “And then one day you find ten years have got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun”

Getting ready to get ready is how my motivational speaking coach Dr. Rob Gilbert describes procrastination.

So then what do you do? Get started before being fully ready. In the book Think and Grow Rich the author Napoleon Hill recommends that when you get an idea, create a plan and get started to work on it immediately, learn from your mistakes and adjust your plans accordingly until you succeed.

Of course a way you can shortcut the process is by taking on a coach that has a plan with a high track record of success. There’s a number of decent personal trainers out there, but if you happen to choose Eric Moss Fitness for all your health and fitness needs, I’ll be thankful.

If you are unsure if you should choose Eric Moss Fitness for all your health and fitness needs, I have a free trial so you can see if you like it first. Just send me a text at 973 476 5328 and introduce yourself. Easy right? And if you do that, I’ll also be thankful you reached out 😆


Eric Moss is a personal trainer in Boonton and moonlights as a world-record-holding modern-day professional performing strongman, author, and motivational speaker. In the tradition of the strength performers more common during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a live show and travels across the country doing presentations on goal achievement for conferences, corporations, associations, nonprofits, and government entities as well as for schools and universities. His personal training studio is located on Main Street in Boonton New Jersey and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, Montville, Kinnelon, Pine Brook, Butler, and Parsippany New Jersey.

It’s about more than looking good

I’m always learning. I love reading books, listening to podcasts, watching youtube videos from people that actually know what they’re doing so on and so forth. One thing I was listening to the other day was an interview with Alywn Cosgrove. Alwyn Cosgrove was one of the OG trainers that was saying that strength training is more important than cardio for the goals of burning fat. (Here’s a link to one of his articles https://www.results-fitness.com/the-hierarchy-of-fat-loss). His philosophy of if he can get more results than the others, he’ll always have business. I’ve adopted that as my own which is why I show off my personal training success stories. And his program design philosophy, which he got from Bruce Lee, I’ve also adopted into my own systematic approach.

Anyway one of the things that struck me was when he had said “You’ve helped them get a new body, now what are they going to do with it?” and that got me pondering.

Summer is approximately 3 months away, which is enough time to get a new body, or more accurately discover the real body you’re supposed to have. And when you have it, you often get the itch to do something with it.

Recently I changed my sidewalk sign to say “Summer is coming, free trials available”. Yes, summer is coming, and though what people may be thinking is I’m promoting looking great in a bathing suit. And yes, I am, but it’s also more than that. Summer could be about lounging on a beach or pool side, but it could also mean playing volleyball with your friends. It could mean more vigorous hikes, or taking up other active hobbies like climbing or recreational sports or doing your first 5k, getting the confidence to go out to parties as a young adult or rolling around with your grand kids as a young adult with several years of experience.

I count someone being able to roll around with their grand kids to be as important or even more important than helping someone win a physique competition. Neal, was able to roll around with his grandkids while they were still young.

When you train effectively you not only look good, you feel good and can do things you wouldn’t normally have been able to do, and that is where your best life is.

I have a tagline that says “Strength for life, living and the pursuit of happiness. We should all have the strength, physical capacity and physique to live life on our own terms free from the shackles of weakness. Because life is for living.”

And I know the journey to get that new body can be a complex and overwhelming one. Fortunately you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself, I have a free trial at my gym in Boonton. Just text me at 973 476 5328 and introduce yourself to get started.


Eric Moss is a personal trainer in Boonton and moonlights as a world-record-holding modern-day professional performing strongman, author, and motivational speaker. In the tradition of the strength performers more common during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a live show and travels across the country doing presentations on goal achievement for conferences, corporations, associations, nonprofits, and government entities as well as for schools and universities. His personal training studio is located on Main Street in Boonton New Jersey and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, Montville, Kinnelon, Pine Brook, Butler, and Parsippany New Jersey.